An Open Letter to The Entourageless: Why it's okay to have as many hours in the day as Beyonce a

You are not Beyoncé and its okay. (This is for my dudes too so don't be deterred by my opener.) I don't know about you all but September was straight up LOOOOONG and now we're half way through October. There has been a lot going on. This past month our students came back (holy moley, I forgot how tiring working and interacting with students is!) In September I attempted to go back to the gym and then got strep (thank goodness for my better half! I'm such a baby when I'm sick lol) and I have school. Now to some of you this may sound like cake. There are so many people out there that are just like me and constantly on the move. Some of you have two, three, or more jobs all while juggling the daily struggles of life. And when I say struggle, I'm just talking about the normal stuff like doing laundry, going to the grocery store, actually cleaning your apartment/house, feeding yourself and getting a good night’s sleep. Sometimes it all seems absolutely impossible. I can't begin to give enough props to my moms and dads out there, you are truly superhuman!

Lately I've fallen into the habit of continuously going. When I'm in "go mode" everything falls to the waste-side and I'm hyper focused on one goal or another. It can be little stuff too. For example when I need to clean the apartment I become almost mechanical. I have my list of things I want to get accomplished and I just start and if I don't finish everything it makes me uneasy and down-right snippy. Am I alone in this? I don't think so. We all have a ton going on but the one thing we can't forget is that Rome wasn't built in a day. So if you're trying to manage your little empire and find that things at time don't go as planned remember you are ONE person. It's kinda funny that my last post was about goals and how important it is to have them because this post is about not forgetting about yourself along the way. It's all a balancing act.

There are days when I literally feel like I am too tired to function because from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep I am like the road runner, a well-oiled machine. I have my mental list of things I need to get done and how I am to accomplish them and I hate absolutely HATE when things are deviated from that plan. I am incredibly harsh on myself and feel like I've failed if I don't get everything done. Does any of this sound familiar? There simply isn't enough time in the day to get everything done and we have to accept that. (I have to accept that.) I can't always go to work and school while juggling simple everyday things all while wearing stilettos and looking like I just got out of an interview for E! Sometimes I sit back and I think to myself, "how the hell does this person or that person get it all done?" and the truth of the matter is that they don't. The people we see in the media or in the limelight have teams, literally multiple people who do their hair, their makeup, make them food, do their shopping, they have 1, 2, 3 or more humans doing what we do in a day for ourselves. When you look at it that way doesn't it make you feel like maybe we are the lucky ones? We should be proud of ourselves for being able to manage it all, even if it doesn't happen the way we envision it.

What is my point with all of this you ask? Good question readers. It's balance. It's reminding everyone of the importance of being easier on ourselves. It's okay if you’re too tired to try the recipe that wants you to gently hug the dough while placing individual fennel seeds on a Wednesday night after work and you eat cereal instead. You don't have to wash the dishes as soon as they enter the sink or tackle that DIY project you've been putting off. Be easier on yourself, you're only one person. Sometimes in order to achieve balance you have to let a few things go. So this is your reminder that everyone has days, weeks, or months when things are hard and you can't get absolutely everything done on your to-do list, hey that's why I haven't been blogging. But remembering that you are human and it's normal to get overwhelmed or caught up in your life will make it easier when you start putting yourself down because of it. All of us are trying to get this life thing right and taking time to be gentle and understanding of ourselves is going to make the journey that much more enjoyable. So sit back my friends, put your planners to the side so you can take a breather. In case you need to hear this, you're all doing great! ;)

#Entourageless #Balance #Relax